1. Be Honest, Clear & Age-Appropriate
Use simple, honest language when explaining death. Avoid vague terms like “gone to sleep,” which may confuse younger children. Adjust your explanation to their age and understanding, and be open to their questions. It’s important to create a space where they feel comfortable asking and expressing their feelings.
2. Create a Safe Space to Share
Reassure children that it’s okay to feel sadness, anger, or confusion. Encourage them to express their emotions, whether through talking, drawing, writing, or play. These activities can help them process what they are feeling and provide comfort during a challenging time.
3. Listen Without Judgment
Listen attentively to what they have to say. Let them express themselves freely and validate their emotions. Sometimes, offering a comforting presence and being a good listener can be the most supportive thing you can do.
4. Offer Reassurance
It’s important to reassure children that they are still loved and safe. Let them know it’s okay to feel however they feel, and remind them that grieving is a process that takes time. Every child grieves differently, so be patient as they navigate their emotions.
5. Use Helpful Resources
Books, stories, and videos that are age-appropriate can help children understand death in a way that makes sense to them. These resources also provide an opportunity for ongoing conversations, showing children that they are not alone in their feelings.
6. Go Easy on Yourself
There’s no “right” way to grieve. How you feel or how you choose to spend the day is entirely personal. Be gentle with yourself during this emotional time. Your feelings are valid, and it’s okay to take it slow and process things at your own pace.
7. Reach Out for Professional Help if Needed
If your child is finding it especially hard to cope, seeking support from professionals can be invaluable. There are several organisations offering resources for grieving children and their families: